Theoretically, setting up a registry is simple. You choose on one or several stores, create a registry online or in person, select various items, and get the word out to your guests. In fact, things are a little more complicated - but only a little!
Here’s the real deal on setting up your wedding registry and getting the word out without offending your guests. Consider that retailers can be an enormous help to both you and your guests. And at the same time, you can't take everything they say at face value.
Q: Where should I register?
A: Chances are, if you're getting married in your own town, you already know where "everyone goes" to set up and shop from a registry.
But if not, and guests are flying in from far away, pick from some bride-tested standbys likely to be present almost anywhere.
Be sure, before you choose your stores, to stop by a wedding forum and get feedback from brides who have been there, done that.
Store policies differ quite dramatically, ranging from the easy-does-it (who'll give you cash back for returns off the registry, no questions asked) to the extremely restrictive (who'll only let you exchange for another item *in that department*, requires a receipt for each item, and so on).
You will want to know about these policies and the store's overall reputation for bridal friendliness before you go in, or returns and exchanges could become a big hassle.
Q: I have a wide range of interests. How lots of stores should I register at?
A: Two to three stores is fairly typical. They do not have to be typical stores, though. If you are a wine drinker and live in a state where it's legal to ship wine, set up a registry at one of the great online wine merchants.
Q: When should I register?
A: Although close family members may pressure you to start earlier, it's helpful to wait three to six months before the wedding. Consider not only are the vast majority of gifts bought within a day or so of the shower or ceremony itself, stores turn over merchandise so rapidly that any gifts you select earlier may be discontinued.
Q: What if I already have all the kitchen appliances and throw pillows I need?
A: Consider putting together a honeymoon registry instead, so guests can contribute toward a special meal or snorkeling trip or a night's lodging during your honeymoon.
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